I’m rockin’ a Grateful Dead tee by Junk Food Clothing tees & ripped jeans.
Recently, I’ve realized that I have a problem with telling people “No”. It’s funny because I’ve always considered myself pretty blunt for the most part, and sometimes too straightforward but when it comes to saying “No”, I cringe at the thought.
I’ve also realized that saying “No” doesn’t make you a terribly mean human, it just means you don’t want to do whatever it is that someone is asking you to do. If someone asks you to do something and you truly don’t want to do it or get involved with it, it’s OK to say “NO”. It won’t make you a bitch and you won’t lose your “sweetness” over it. However, it will give you a sense of self-worth because you are doing what you want to do and not feeling like you have to do it to make others happy.
Think about it, did the person hesitate to ask you to do something? Will they “lose” respect for you if you tell them “No”? If they felt comfortable enough to ask you to do something and you’re uncomfortable with that, then it should come very easy telling them “No”. If they “lose” respect for you when you tell them NO, they never had respect for you to begin with. In the end it really is a win/win because you know where you both stand.
Try it, I know I have and it feels pretty freeing!